65% of relationships fail because fear, not fate, made the choice: Are you sabotaging your love life?

In a dating culture quick to blame bad timing or the wrong match, a quieter truth is taking shape: most relationships do not end because of fate; they never really start, because of fear. According to new internal data from Hint, the symbolic insight platform with over 1.2 million users, 65% of users believe fear of vulnerability, rejection, or intimacy played a defining role in the downfall of a past relationship. It has become the norm for people to present polished, filtered versions of themselves online, on dating apps, social media, and even in texts. When it comes to a real connection, that habit backfires. Vulnerability feels like a risk, not a strength, because it breaks the performance. Many relationships stall at surface level, not because of a lack of interest, but because neither person feels safe enough to go deeper.

Among 100,000+ readings conducted via guided tools on Hint, 34.81% of users cite 'getting hurt again' as their core relationship block. Other leading fears include losing trust (19.23%), lack of commitment (13.64%), and growing apart (12.56%). Each speaks less to external incompatibility and more to internal overwhelm, a pattern of self-protection that too often masquerades as disinterest or detachment.

For many users, Hint is where avoidance first becomes apparent. The platform uses emotionally symbolic tools, such as palmistry, astrology, and soulmate sketch interpretations, not to diagnose relationships, but to decode them. Certain zodiac signs and patterns are significantly more common among Hint users who report long-term commitment fears, suggesting that emotional blocks may be tied to deeper, inherited beliefs about love and loss.

What these patterns suggest is that relationship sabotage is rarely intentional. It is often unconscious, fear-driven behaviour that pushes intimacy away, even while desiring it. Clients describe ghosting someone they cared about, downplaying their feelings, or fleeing when a relationship began to feel too serious. It did not end because it lacked something, but rather because it meant something.

Hint offers the opportunity and environment to pause in the emotional economy of online dating, to sit with the discomfort and ask what they are avoiding. Users do not receive easy answers, but instead, they are encouraged to be curious about the real reasons something did not work out, and what that says about their inner timing. People are not always comfortable with asking themselves the uncomfortable questions, which are often essential in navigating and overcoming stressful or unhappy situations.

The insight is not always easy, but it is necessary. Too many people are dragging fear from one relationship into the next, convinced that disappointment is inevitable. Hint offers an approach that helps interrupt that cycle, not through advice or algorithms, but through ancient systems designed to reflect instead of predict. The result is a shift from reactive dating to conscious connection.

Hint is a self-inquiry platform with over 1.2 million users that combines symbolic practices, such as astrology, palmistry, and artistic interpretation, to help individuals examine the inner dynamics shaping their emotional life. Rather than focusing on surface-level traits or compatibility scores, Hint acts as a reflective framework, offering space for clients to map their emotional patterns and understand the deeper timing behind their relationship decisions. It is not a quick fix, but a quiet recalibration.

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Hint America Inc.
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Leigh Roberts
PR manager